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”With all that being said it is imperative that us men who are in these kinds of situations find the "Inner Buddha" in us and continue to stay positive; focused on the end results.”

Dear Mr. Baggage:

Thank you for sharing this KNOWLEDGE with all.  Coming together for a solution is important.  Let’s stop the cycle. 

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Background

1987: The daughter in the custody case

1995: The mother in the court with the 6% dad (representing his contribution in mind, body, & spirit). 

2012: The 2 parent loving home.  #noStep

ATTENTIONS DADS: FIND YOUR "Inner Buddha"

STAY positive! STAY focused.  STAY peaceful.

 Even the strongest man with the most resources, can only fight for so long before fatigue takes over.  The only person that loses out is the child.  I believe if my parents had invested that “6 figure donation to the legal system” to determine who "Wins", they could have just agreed to disagree and split it down the middle!  Created a trust for each child maybe? INSTEAD that fight probably took away the passion, love, & fight a man possesses for his child.  That fight TOOK all of the smiles and tears that were secured for the love of his life….his children. 

Consider this: The fight is over.  Calculate the hours.  How many were spent deciding who would get what, when, and how?  How long did you spend discussing your children like assets instead of humans? Whether it was months or years, they were moments taken away from the vision of their smile.  Moments missed to save the child instead of separate the child’s heart.  Moments that can never be replaced with a price tag or an apology.  They are the moments that make us who we are.  Don’t you want YOUR child to have ALL of their moments?

When the fight is over, everyone loses --everyone.  Build people not pieces!  Gentleman:  Take heed to your "Inner Buddha"! Don’t let this fight take away your energy to invest in being a daddy.  The child IS the winner, MUST be.  Be patient.  Be peaceful.  Listen.  Solve. Separate. Move Forward.  Build.  This life, that life, & ALL the moments before, after, and in between are priceless.  Gratitude!  

From the 1987 child, 1995 mommy, & the 2012 woman.

Let us evolve as we love the children of 2012…now & forever.   Be well.