Is Anyone Listening?

I think daily there are things that I want to blog about ...and dont.  I want to share my feelings, my challenges and my successes.  I believe that we ALL have much to learn from one another.  I believe that we have forgotten the value of another person's journey.

Im excited to have shared my journey with a diverse culture of humans varying in income, education, age and religion. I aspire to engage people across the world.  However the one common thing that I found was PEOPLE hesitate to share what they think others won't listen to.

Did that make sense to you? For example, we often hear Tyler Perry's story of homelessness.  Steve Harvey openly shares that he was living in his car.  Iyanla Vanzant won't pause to tell you where she came from!  We listen now - -but would we if they were not in the public eye?

Our world has gotten so fast, so fixed and so famed. Instead I dream of a day when we have advanced as humans and can receive one another completely.  There will be less focus on judging others, excluding others or being just plain ole mean.  WE will focus on smiling, be grateful and supporting one another.

Imagine if five years from now you discovered that you could have gone farther faster simply by slowing down.  May we open our eyes to what is before us  - this moments are valuable & precious.  May we open our hearts to those we love & total strangers - LOVE is a universal language.

Oh and one more thing.   I dont care how many times you see someone on television, how much money, cars or houses they have  -LIFE does not discriminate.  WE all encounter much - -the defining moment is best captured in the heart of life's greatest challenge.  I've decided to share my defining moments with the world as it happens - -

Dear world: I am not perfect. I am a work in progress.  I want more.  I want better - not just for me ...for all people.  I genuinely believe that WE can create peace on earth AND I want to be a part of that.  I welcome you to be a part of my journey.  I am excited to be a part of yours.

Be well. Be U. Be LOVE. 

xoxo

The Art of Communication

Communication:  the art of designing a message and delivering it to someone that receives it & reciprocates! AMAZING! Communication is actually the "Old School" social media.   I am a lover of all things communication, therefore, a lover of social media.  There used to be a great effort and expense to get to people, to find like minded spirits, to create your circle by choice NOT circumstance.....to communicate.




Do you remember when PR meant you were sending out 1000 letters and going to the post office?  Can you remember communication before email?  Connecting with someone meant you had to work for it.  Having an "A-List Clientele" meant you were surrounding by the same: hard workers!


Lets jump forward to today!  Instead of the time that it takes to read multiple books because your brain craves knowledge- there is Google.  Instead of multiple letters with stamps (they are located at the post office) to addresses found in the yellow pages, there is Twitter!  Twitter is this magnificent platform where anyone can reach ANYONE!

For a long time, I hesitated and then I tried it! My knowledge craving brain is excited to ask question, confer with great minds, and get priceless business information.  I CAN encourage others, empower others, if nothing else I can demonstrate my smile in 140 characters.  Choice is fascinating!  People who want to hear what I say can stay for a moment, a minute, or a lifetime.  It is a space in which I am free to COMMUNICATE with elegance, grace, knowledge, and a SMILE!

I ensure you I understand the now, the then and all in between.  I dont know who to ask these questions I have and my mind, my soul, my spirit won't let it go!  Can you help me?  WE have a beautiful canvas on which we can share the best of the best, changing the world at best, improving ourselves either way! WHY have we forgotten the rules of communication?  Am I antiquated in the thought that with the "ease" of communication it should be easier to maintain our manners?

Call me old but you can tell me you dont like me and say it with a smile...whats the harm?  Let us settle our challenges no matter what they are and share the solutions.  Share the journey, im listening, but only if you have the courage to share the real version not the the reality tv version.  We have a duty as humans no matter the year.  We have a duty to give our best, try our best, and share our best.  The faster you join this circle, the bigger it will be, the greater we will have...and the world will change.   Be well Be U!

Whats Happening: Outside UR Door

I am a talking knowledge seeker.  I admit it.  I dont deny it.  One of my biggest secrets is READing!  I encourage you to learn for yourself.  Don’t take my word for it, READ. I did and didn't like what I read.  

 Knowledge leads to exploration.   I want to help people, protect people, and love people!  I want everyone to feel what it’s like to be safe, loved, & supported.   I want to teach a self sustaining lifestyle.  All people learning to grow in food & family.  The value in choice and happiness is enough to change the world.  Minimally, it is a great start.

This journey was ignited with fire after @Skip_Conover introduced me to @MeltemArikam.  READ! Her timeline introduced truth & forced you to know things that you denied existed in our world.  Her timeline opened the doors to the outside world.

I began reading about what I thought was an orphanage story to discover that children...CHILDREN were taking their lives to escape the pain of sexual abuse.  Had these children ever known safe, peace, love?  

WANTED!  A rally of mothers!  “Lets march directly to the door, shouting NO MORE! MomE is here to save U! All of U!”

Instead I cried furiously forcing Mr. to immediately pull over to the side of the road.  He kept asking what’s wrong?   I couldn't speak but had an immediate need to be held tight.  Who was holding these children?

READ.  Now I need to know what is happening in my city.  I live in a city that has more children in poverty than any other city.  WHY? I felt guilty having my breakfast knowing that 42% of homeless children were under the age of 6!  

Children MUST be protected, nourished, fed, warm, loved, & safe.  If we don’t help to save a helpless generation they grow into hurt, angry, abandoned individuals chasing life through a maze of confusion. The most disheartening, there is a percentage that will not survive the abuse.   

READ.  Today, 3 days after this ‘Chris Brown lost his twitter account and his fans are threatening the woman involved in the debate.’  PAUSE.  WHAT! The time spent on this headline - do you think that there is a better use of mass media?  If you don’t know the answer, come back to my blog after your next meal.  I guarantee that meal will cause you to remember making the answer clear.

I need to go change the world. Save those babies or at least spend more time educating those that will listen about what is going on outside their door!  Perhaps we will all take our gifts & resources and like superheroes we will change the world.  My hope is that we find better use of our time eliminating things like bullying, abuse, neglect, hatred, & disrespect.  

Imagine if the world were happy. 

Be well.  Be U. 

Real Women. Real Passion. PURPOSE.

No matter how many college classes I sat through, there is nothing more rewarding than "real life" people relating to real life solutions.  That bond keeps me tuned in for direction, support, and good ole fashioned, "you aren't the only mom who feels the weight of entrepreneurship!  Ann Curry, "She gives her all but success is NOTHING unless her family is also cared for."

No matter what kind of over achieving, hard working, fashionable woman you are  - -regardless of age, ethnicity, or income...YOU have a heart!  Its that heart that allows you to have passion for what you do but equally have passion for who you love.  It all must have an even balance otherwise you find yourself searching for the purpose of it all.

Family - however YOU define it - is the motivating force to all we do.  It has shaped us in mind, body, spirit.  Do business women have a larger challenge because of their heart?  Have emotions simultaneously become the leader of success and the leader of demise?  The challenge to determine the "fine line of mommy, woman, & (if applicable) wifey success is the ANSWER to our purpose. I think.

Business women like Ariana Hufffington, "Women are faced with the challanege Baby vs. Biz + Guilt
Thank you for sharing that all women feel this way .  not just single moms ALL moms!  MOMMY take a break without the castle falling OR can she?

Jane Fonda shares, you cant be whole if you are trying to be perfect? Lets not choose between one or the other.  WE are worth MORE when complete AND whole. Ability starts with demonstration of self success. How many woman are running million dollar corporation and still challenged with the art of self love? This is more than just a blog topic, its a movement.

Whether you have 10 staff or 100 staff  - -YOU are only as good as your team. ANNA WINTOUR said it and I am LISTENING!  Be true to self and listen to people's opinion you respect.  In the end it has to come from you.  After all YOU are the one directly positioned to be the result of YOUR actions.  My wish for all is that they are able to believe in themselves a little more each day.  No sooner than I can take a ceep breath from my mind mentor model mogul, the next powerful favorite appears.

OPRAH shares, "Your true vision must be aligned with your passion.  Those that you include in your circle should be as passionate about your vision as you are.  I am sure some of you are thinking, "How/Where/When does this exist?  Everyone is skeptical.  Its like bad relationship business.  After I finish convincing you who I am.  I have figured out YOU are not the one for me!"  But we must keep going.

Ladies! Our circle of strength begins with self and is expanded with our circle of family and friends.  Before you know it the circle becomes an epidemic.  It must be one where we are powerful enough to design our boundaries so that we return home as complete and as whole as we left.  Once I decided to say NO, NO...Once I learned how to say no - I felt empowered by my boundaries - I was freed from my abundant people pleasing and focused on the Prize...ME!

I am empowered by the knowledge that there are other powerful women in this world that share my beliefs and values.  The Forbes 500 Women are my validation.  I am motivated .....HOWEVER, it is the conversations that I have with 13 year old that tell me in spite of what everyone else is doing they have to focus on success.  I am empowered by the 18 year old that handed me her resume as she said, "Good morning.  I want to be a success and I would like your help.  I was dropping my daughter to school & this young lady was forward marching toward her future.

My heart is overjoyed to share the conviction of a beautiful butterfly that is vested in spirit, truth, service, and love!  She doesnt mind who knows it.  She shares with everyone and has used her journey as a learning motivation rather than a crutch.  I want to be a better person because of her poise and her gift and her spirit. Her truth, like the Forbes 500 Women, convincing me that this world is designed of a culturally mixed intellgentially charged and spiritually filled explosion of women.

I am proud to be a woman and even more proud to share a circle with such beautiful butterflies.

Be well. Be YOU.

Happy Birthday Butterfly @Kryst10 (KrystenSaid!) May your every wish come true and may all honored to share in your goodness know your value ...your worth.  All my love on this special day to you!!!!

Thank U MrBaggage.Com

”With all that being said it is imperative that us men who are in these kinds of situations find the "Inner Buddha" in us and continue to stay positive; focused on the end results.”

Dear Mr. Baggage:

Thank you for sharing this KNOWLEDGE with all.  Coming together for a solution is important.  Let’s stop the cycle. 

http://www.mrbaggage.com/

Background

1987: The daughter in the custody case

1995: The mother in the court with the 6% dad (representing his contribution in mind, body, & spirit). 

2012: The 2 parent loving home.  #noStep

ATTENTIONS DADS: FIND YOUR "Inner Buddha"

STAY positive! STAY focused.  STAY peaceful.

 Even the strongest man with the most resources, can only fight for so long before fatigue takes over.  The only person that loses out is the child.  I believe if my parents had invested that “6 figure donation to the legal system” to determine who "Wins", they could have just agreed to disagree and split it down the middle!  Created a trust for each child maybe? INSTEAD that fight probably took away the passion, love, & fight a man possesses for his child.  That fight TOOK all of the smiles and tears that were secured for the love of his life….his children. 

Consider this: The fight is over.  Calculate the hours.  How many were spent deciding who would get what, when, and how?  How long did you spend discussing your children like assets instead of humans? Whether it was months or years, they were moments taken away from the vision of their smile.  Moments missed to save the child instead of separate the child’s heart.  Moments that can never be replaced with a price tag or an apology.  They are the moments that make us who we are.  Don’t you want YOUR child to have ALL of their moments?

When the fight is over, everyone loses --everyone.  Build people not pieces!  Gentleman:  Take heed to your "Inner Buddha"! Don’t let this fight take away your energy to invest in being a daddy.  The child IS the winner, MUST be.  Be patient.  Be peaceful.  Listen.  Solve. Separate. Move Forward.  Build.  This life, that life, & ALL the moments before, after, and in between are priceless.  Gratitude!  

From the 1987 child, 1995 mommy, & the 2012 woman.

Let us evolve as we love the children of 2012…now & forever.   Be well.